It would take me days, maybe even weeks,months or years to write even half of what an African woman is all about.I like to believe that an African woman is a beautiful woman. I’m not saying other women are not beautiful, but I don’t have first hand information on the other Women, I am an African woman, it’s what I am, it’s what I will always be, and that makes me my own primary source. So I will say it again, and proudly this time, an African woman is a beautiful woman.
It is hard as it is being a woman, any woman for that matter. What with all the double standards, what with all the harshness and pressure society has put on women? Is it harder being an African woman? I really don’t know, I haven’t been anything else, I can’t put myself in another persons shoes because clearly, I can’t be another person, I am who I am, and for that, I have no right to compare.
Having been discriminated against for being a woman, I know how that feels. I also know how it feels to be discriminated against for being African. I have heard a four year old call me a negro, while his mother just sat there and cared not to do anything about it. I have wondered at the ignorance of humans. Yes, I have been discriminated against, for being a woman, for being African, put the two together, and then tell me if African women have it harder than the rest. I still don’t know. Really I don’t.
What I do know for sure is, an African woman is a beautiful woman. Try to tell me otherwise and I will refer you to youtube, listen to the song “An African Woman” by Jomenes boys na band, They talk about an African woman being a quality woman, not a quantity woman, Whats is that all about anyway? I wont try to defend their lyrics coz anyway, half the song is in Luo but the most important line is “An African Woman is a beautiful woman.” And on that we agree. Thanks for the appreciation Jomenes boys na band.
While I think the African woman has been put on the international map for all the wrong reasons, Yes, there are still cases of forced early marriages on girls less than 12 yrs, Yes,there are still cases of Female genital mutilation, An yes, there are still cases of breast ironing (I didn’t even know about that one!!! I only just found out what it is!!!) While I abhor all these practices, is that all there is to an African woman?
Can’t you take a moment and appreciate how far she has come? Can’t you understand that she is trying to just hold on to her culture, her tradition, the only thing that gives her any say in a male dominated world? While what she is doing may not be right for her or for her girl child, can’t you take a minute and understand that deep in her heart she feels it is the right thing to do? It was done to her by her mother and she turned out ok, so then why don’t you take a minute and try to explain to her why it is wrong? How it is hurting her daughter as opposed to helping her, can’t you stop judging her and calling her inhumane for just a minute and hear her out?Then can’t you explain to her in depth,with patience and understanding, or is she so hard headed that she won’t hear you out?
Why don’t you understand that she was born to be curvy? why then don’t you appreciate her curves and not call her fat ever so often?Look at her hips, while most women are out there paying millions for implants,she is what she is, her bosom is worth thousands just as it is. While her hair does not grow that long, can you please refrain from calling it kinky and appreciate that it was meant to be curly? Can’t you see her creativity in the million ways she can style that hair? Won’t you take a minute and appreciate her efforts? And her skin, her skin, where do I even begin? whatever happened to black is beautiful? why must you pressure her so that she feels she can’t be beautiful unless her skin was lighter?Her skin, whether the color of ebony, chocolate, or even “yellow” as some of you like to call it, is exactly how it is supposed to be.
Come on African woman wherever you are, don’t fall for all that nonsense. You are beautiful just the way you are. Walk with your head held high, you are who you are. You are an African woman. You are a beautiful woman.